For many years, we have seen a lot of people, mainly women, stay in toxic relationships. Whether the case is romantic, platonic, or even family relations, it is never good to stay.
People choose to stay because they don’t want to leave their comfort zone and try new things. This is what they’re familiar with; this is all they know.
These people have chosen not to know anything other than being hurt over and over again.
It’s like a warhead when you’re in that type of relationship with someone. When it’s good, it’s good, but when it’s bad, it’s sour.
There are so many reasons why people would choose to stay rather than just leave.
Some may be the person who is on the receiving side of the toxicity can still feel this strong connection to the people that they once did when they were nicer.
Even people giving the other person hope in the fact that maybe the person will change. I am a victim of thinking someone will change and giving them the opportunity to show me.
Those good moments you have with someone can give you even the slightest bit of hope that the person is going to change and things will be different.
Senior Venezia Alatorre said, “I was tired of being hurt; the good times weren’t outweighing the hurt I’d feel during the bad times.”
We see this on TV. All the time. Sometimes it ends up working out, and the two people get together, or they restore their bond, becoming good friends again.
An example of things working out in the end is Blair and Chuck from “Gossip Girl. They had both done bad things to one another, yet they ended up together.
That’s not ideal, though. People should learn their worth. In romantic relationships that are toxic, so many people feel as though these bad relationships are what they deserve.
That they’ve done bad to the world or to themselves, that being with someone who is substandard to them is their karma.
Platonic relations are very different because, yes, you have these deep connections, but not in the same way you have with someone you’re interested in. Being in a toxic friendship is just as bad.
Some may not leave because they have no one else with whom they can hang out or do things.
However, it is never worth sacrificing your happiness and mental well-being. Being in those types of relations is so draining, and it takes a lot from a person.
A student who wished to remain anonymous said, “I haven’t been in something toxic, yet I have been in a friendship that was very off and on, and it took a lot out of me. When we were good friends, it was a good friendship, but then when we were off, it was just off-putting. When we’d walk past each other, it just felt weird; we would just share glances and yet not say anything.”
We may not realize it, but being alone isn’t that bad. Obviously, it gets lonely, but it’s better than being in something where you’re constantly being hurt and having to suffer.
No matter the type of relationship, I believe you’re supposed to feel loved and cherished by the other person. If there’s even a chance they might wrong you, you should get up and remove them from your life.
I know it isn’t always that easy to actually follow through with letting someone go, but for the most part, it really is for your own benefit.
Everyone needs to learn to love themselves to the point where they don’t just accept the negativity other people try to bring.